What are the cons of parenting

Late parenting: pros and cons

Compared to the post-war period, the time of the first birth for German women has been postponed by more than 10 years. On the one hand, this means more time for women to develop professionally and to achieve an equal position in society before they can start a family. On the other hand, there is a significant decrease in the chances of pregnancy due to aging and other risk factors such as rising inflammation or endometriosis, according to gynecologist Matthias Korell. The gynecologist explicitly emphasizes that it is not wrong to have children later - on the contrary, late parenthood has positive and negative aspects as well as early motherhood. Let's think about the advantages and disadvantages of late pregnancy.

Fertility in men and women

From a biological point of view, the ideal age for pregnancy for women is between 19 and 24 years. But that is exactly the time when women are still in training or are starting to gain a foothold professionally. Men in their twenties usually don't want a child either, as they also have to establish themselves professionally and financially. Although the role of age in fathering has not yet been adequately researched, a decrease in fertility can still be determined in men over 40. This is why more and more older couples are turning to reproductive medicine to help them get pregnant.

Benefits of Late Pregnancy

Late mothers and late fathers have usually already achieved their most important goals and desires in life. Therefore, they can face everyday life with a child more relaxed. You have reached a certain professional and social level and have gained a financial cushion. Perhaps they already live in their own home and have already prepared a cozy nest for the small family. They had more time to adjust to pregnancy and a life with a child, to read literature, to form their opinion on important issues relating to pregnancy and childbirth and to present them to the attending physicians. All of this makes her more relaxed, which does not necessarily mean a more relaxed approach to pregnancy and the child, because that is more a question of personality. Overall, late parents are less likely to feel that they are missing out on something in life for their child.

Late Parenting: The Cons

If the desired child is long in coming, this can lead to greater fear and uncertainty. This tension can be transferred to the unborn child. Sometimes late parents cannot share their worries with their peers because their children are much older. It can also be more difficult to make friends with playmates' parents when they are much younger. Parents of youngsters report that in their mid-twenties it was easier for them to go through the nights because of a crying child. The lack of sleep has a greater impact at 40. But it also depends on the state of health and the serenity of the parents. With the age of the parents, the risk of abortions and genetic defects in the child increases. As good as it may now be, prenatal diagnostics can only provide assessments of genetic defects, but cannot provide a reliable diagnosis. In a late pregnancy, parents have to give more thought to prenatal diagnostics and at the same time not be unnecessarily unsettled, because there are millions of healthy and happy children of late births.

Source: Kaiser, Britta / Korell, Matthias (2010): Endometriosis and nutrition. Publisher Müller & Steinicke, Munich

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